【神话塔罗】恋人

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恋人
Mythological reference: The judgement of Paris

Divinatory meaning: A love affair with a trial or choice attached.

THE LOMERS

The image of the Lovers reflects Paris, who was called upon by Zeus to judge a beauty contest between the three great goddesses, Hera, Athene and Aphrodite. It is worth noting the various choices Paris was offered: power and wealth by Hera, victory in battle by Athene, love and beauty by Aphrodite. While it may be understandable that Paris, as a young man, opted for love and beauty, it is also clear that he did not consider the options carefully nor did he give a thought for the consequences of his choice. When making choices in life we often tend to go for the option which has the most obvious advantages, not realising that there may be adverse consequences as well. Every choice has both advantages and disadvantages connected to it. Sometimes it is wise to consider not what has the greatest advantage but what has the least disadvantage.

The card of the Lovers follows from the Fool's discovery about the complexity of his parenthood. As you come to study the Lovers in more detail, bear in mind what the previous exercises concerning mother and father have revealed. Try to connect your own romantic choices with your experience of relationships within your family. The way you regard relationship will inevitably have been affected by the kind of relationship you had with your parents and they had with each other. The choices that were made in your family will obviously have bearing on the choice you make. The world of love and relationships which the Lovers represent requires particular kinds of choices to be made. Paris as a young man is more concerned with his physical desires than their consequences. So, too, the first relationships we form in adolescence tend to be based on the physical magnetism of the other partner, not on his or her deeper qualities of character. As we become more mature, however, other factors such as compatibility and positive qualities of character assume equal importance.

As you begin to colour in the image of the Lovers, allow yourself time to think

about your own attitudes to love. What is important to you in a relationship? How do you pick partners? On what do you base your choices- physical appearance, wealth and status, quality of character, friendship or passion? Select key colours for this card; colours which sum up both its bright and dark side.

When you start the visualisation exercise put yourself in Paris' shoes. Imagine you were faced with such a choice. How would you handle it? Imagine yourself standing on the mountainside with the delicate task of giving a precious prize to one of the three goddesses standing before you. Have several conversations if possible, one with each goddess, asking advice, and one with Paris asking his reasons for his choice. You might like to ask each one of them a specific question regarding a choice you have to make. As usual make a note of all that took place in your fantasy visit to the land of the gods.


神话参考：帕里斯的判断

卦意：与评判或选择相关的风流韵事


恋人的形象反映了帕里斯，这个被宙斯点名给女神选美比赛做评判的倒霉蛋儿。
参加比赛的有三位伟大的女神，赫拉，雅典娜和阿芙罗狄蒂。
值得注意的是帕里斯要参考各种综合标准作出最终选择：赫拉的力量和财富，雅典娜的战绩和荣光，阿芙罗狄蒂的爱与美。
尽管帕里斯作为一个年轻人选择了爱情和美丽，但也很明显，走肾的时候忘了过脑子，他并没有仔细考虑这些选择和后果。
在生活中做选择时，我们往往倾向于选最具明显优势的选项，抱着侥幸心理很少意识可能存在不利后果。
每种选择都有其优缺点。
有时候，明智的思考方式是考虑哪一边可能造成的伤害更小，而非优势更大。

恋人的卡片源于愚者对其父母身份复杂性的发现。
当你更深入详细研究恋人牌时，请记住关于之前对母亲和父亲的回想练习所揭示的那些感受。
试着将自己做的浪漫选择连结你与家人相处的经验
因为 ，我们处理一段关系的方式将不可避免地受到你与父母之间关系的影响，而且他们之间的关系也是如此。
成长的环境像胎记一样印在我们的灵魂上，许多时候，家庭做出的选择显然会影响您的选择。
恋人所代表一段需要需要特定选择的世俗之爱／关系。
帕里斯作为一个年轻人更关心他的身体欲望，而不是选择的后果。
因此，我们在青春期形成的第一个关系往往是基于对另一个人的物理磁性，而不是基于对他或她更深刻的品质。
然而，随着我们变得更加成熟，其他因素如兼容性和性格上展露的积极品质也同样重要。

当你开始为恋人的形象着色时，让自己有时间思考 - 你对爱的态度。
对你来说在一段感情里最重要的是什么？
你如何选择搭档？
你的选择基于什么 - 物质外表，财富和地位，品格，友谊或激情？
选择此卡的关键颜色; 并总结它明亮和黑暗的二元性。

当你开始可视化训练时，
不妨把自己放在帕里斯的靴子里。
想象一下，如果你面临着这样的选择。
你会怎么处理它？
想象自己站在山腰上，
肩负着向站在你面前的三位女神之一赠送珍贵奖品的微妙任务。
如果可能的话，进行几次对话，与每一位女神交谈，询问建议，再问问帕里斯他做出选择的理由。
也许你可以试试让每个人给你提供一个必须做出的选择的具体问题。
像往常一样记下你在神灵之地的幻想访问中发生的一切。